They have a saying in southern Iowa:
"Never wrestle(usually they pronounce it "rass-ul")with a pig-you get dirty and the pig likes it."
On the other side of that, John Cleese and Michael Palin of Monty Python had a show before the Flying Circus days called "How to Irritate People." The secret, it turns out, is to be (or act) completely oblivious to the fact that you are being irritating.
So here's what that has to do with LMR.